For the longest time I was never quite happy. I was surrounded by so many good things in my life, but they never seemed good enough. I would chase goal after goal, crush them one after another, but it never left me satisfied. All I could focus on were my problems and I became fixated on the things I couldn’t have. It was a vicious cycle that left me unhappy and unfulfilled.
It wasn’t until I started to examine my life and perspective on things that I realized that a big cause of my unhappiness was the way I was approaching life. As cheesy as it is, that glass half empty or half full expression is really quite true. How you look at the situation, really affects how you feel about it as well. We all have a choice in how we view the world.
The truth is, it’s never the situation that’s at fault. It’s the way you choose to view it. Now believe me that this change in perspective didn’t happen overnight for me, but over the course of many months. But I came to realize that changing my perspective not only made me a better person, but a happier person as well.
3 Things Changed My Perspective
and Made Me a Happier Person
There are a few things in particular that help me change my outlook in life and today I thought I would share them with you. They’re actually quite simple changes to make too, and when I started to do them the skeptic in me thought the impact would be quite minimal, but it turned out quite contrary to that.
In my current state, I can’t say can’t say I’m in an ideal situation right now in my life, but I do feel good about where I am and where I’m going and I think the changes I’ve made to my perspective play a big part of that. And I attribute a large part of it to these small things that I’ve been practicing as part of my daily routine.
Practicing gratitude has definitely made the biggest difference for me. Gratitude puts situations into perspective. When we can see the good as well as the bad, it becomes more difficult to complain and stay stuck. It also helps us realize what we have.
The awareness of what we’re grateful for can lessen our tendency to want more all the time. In short, gratitude makes us happier, not only that strengthens relationships, improves health, reduces stress.
It’s also easy to practice too, everyday write down 3 unique things you’re thankful for. Heck, you don’t even need to write them down, you can just think about it. And be specific, for example don’t just say you’re thankful for your dog, say you’re thankful that your dog greets your at the dog and how that makes you feel. And by doing this every day will be amazed at how gratitude will change the way you feel about your life.
2. Focus on the lesson not the issue
This one is easier said than done, but once you get in the habit of it, it becomes much easier. People have bad experiences every day, but the key is finding the silver lining.
Dwelling on the issues only causes more bad feelings, but if you direct your energy to making it an opportunity to evolve from it, you’ll find yourself growing as a person. At the end of the day, everything happens for a reason – you either have to find the reason yourself or it will become clear by itself after some time.
3. Distance yourself from negativity
Whoever or whatever is toxic in your life will only slow you down. It’s okay to say no those people or those things that don’t help you move forward. And this isn’t always an easy thing to do, but it is very necessary.
Escaping the sources of negativity will give you more space to attract positivity. So allow yourself to put a cross on the things that are toxic in your life. If it doesn’t make you feel good, it’s okay to let it go.
Changing your perspective on life sounds like a huge task to tackle, but it begins with small steps. These 3 things alone have made a big difference. And over time, I’ve additional supplemented them with reading, journaling and other things to help me grow.
But just remember nothing happens overnight, these small efforts over time will make it happen. And then you will never perceive things the same way you used to. Every day is a new chance to start again. Embrace it!
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